السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

I want to be honest about how I feel because I've been keeping this to myself, and I don't want it to turn into resentment. I'm not trying to start an argument or make you choose between me and your family. I just want you to understand why this situation hurts me.

I know I can never really "compete" with your brother when situations like this come up.

It reminds me of what happened three days before our wedding. Your brother asked you to pick him up from the airport and drive him out of town, even though we were busy preparing the rental house for your family who were coming from another city. We had so much to do, but in the end, I was the one who gave in.

And now, after we're married, it's happening again.

You were supposed to pick me up from the station, and we already had plans for tomorrow, including my pregnancy check-up and several other things we had arranged together. But when your brother called and asked for the same favor, you became torn between the two situations, and once again, I felt like I was the one expected to compromise.

I understand why it's difficult for you. I know you feel grateful to him because he played a big part in bringing us together, and because of that, saying no to him probably feels uncomfortable. I truly understand that.

But what I'm struggling to understand is how long this will continue.

Will I always be the one who has to step aside whenever your brother needs something from you?

I'm your wife, and right now I'm carrying our child. Yet sometimes it feels like even in moments when I genuinely need you, I still come after your brother's requests. That's a painful feeling to have.

I'm not asking you to stop helping him or to put distance between yourselves. I'm only asking whether there will ever be a time when you can tell him, "I can't this time, because I already have responsibilities and plans with my wife."

Can you do that, even just once?

Because what scares me is the thought that every time he asks for help, I'll always be the one who has to adjust, compromise, and give way.

I love you, and that's exactly why I'm telling you this. I don't want to keep these feelings bottled up. I just want us to talk honestly about where I stand in your list of priorities, especially now that we're building our own family together. I hope you can understand that this isn't coming from anger—it's coming from hurt, disappointment, and a need for reassurance from the person I trust the most.